How many times have we come across this all too familiar attitude? Read further down. This type of behavior that I’m referring to is not a stereotypical or discriminatory characteristic. It’s certainly not isolated to a specific group, socioeconomic status or class, race, gender or culture. Behaviors such as the ones described below is no respecter of persons. All too often we see and entertain this familiar attitude. Besides, it’s widely accepted. Ok, allow me to get a lil more specific because I mean the media has a lot to do with our acceptance of it. And we have become so in tuned to and so fixed on this familiar attitude so much so that we are accustomed to it.
I believe the media is the biggest culprit for encouraging this type of [aggressive] behavior—Hellywood. They are so shrewd that they can take something so simple, manipulate it, and turn it into something extraordinary. To top it off, they throw in the sexual suggestive TV ads or reality show scenes including the fighting, seduction, cursing, cat clawing scratching, pulling of hair and yelling, &c.—and it doesn’t matter if it takes place in da hood or a professional business. Titillating huh? Oh yeah to some degree, most of us buy into all of the baby momma—Imma whup yo behind—cos you took my man—don’t get up in my face agin cos if you do it’s on—attitude-drama! One time in church, I saw a man punch another man in the face. Bam! right in da kisser. Say What?! Yep, this type of behavior has also crept into the church. I’m not surprised though because a female usher assaulted me one year. Isn’t it still called an assault even if the person jacks up your clothes, but doesn’t necessarily make skin contact with the body? Perhaps details to that situation will come at another day, another blog. In the meantime, we are responsible for our own attitude and actions, not the media’s, not anyone else’s.
Don’t think that this blog is about the media. No, it is not although it does play a big part in the attitude-drama. Sensationalism sells, right? More specifically, this blog is about my sistahs. Now I’m ’bout to love on ya, so let’s get down to da real nitty gritty.
Why is it that some women, my sistahs, think that when they yell or make their point by being loud, escalating their voices in their anger, spit foaming in the cracks of their mouth, quick to ball you out while pointing their sha nay nay fingers in yo face, swayin’ their diva heads back and forth, angrily swearing up and down that they will kick, and could kick yo behind, pull out yo hair, tear up yo clothes, knock yo teeth in, curse harder than some sailors, at the same time, believing that they are all that and a bag of chips; and get this, they think that they know this behavior is cute, and this at the age of 30 and up?! Really?! Just to complicate things further, they profess that they are a Christian? If so, then they need to be aware of and taught that this type of behavior doesn’t model a godly attitude, neither is it righteous. Conversely, the bible clearly denotes that this type of attitude is that of a fool.
It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house. Prov. 25:24
- The fool rages and scoffs, and there is no peace Prov. 29:9b
- A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards. Prov. 29: 11
- Seest thou a man [humankind, not gender] that is hasty in his words? there is more hope of a fool than of him. Prov. 29:20
- Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. Eccl. 7:9
- A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man [humankind, not gender] covereth shame. Prov. 12:16
- An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many sins. Prov. 29:22
- But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Scripture Colossians. 3:8